Matthew 5:33-37 “Again, you have heard that it was said to the people long ago, ‘Do not break your oath, but keep the oaths you have made to the Lord.’ But I tell you, Do not swear at all: either by heaven, for it is God’s throne; or by the earth, for it is his footstool; or by Great King. And do not swear by your head, for you cannot make even one hair white or black. Simply let your ‘Yes’ be ‘Yes,’ and your ‘No,’ ‘No’; anything beyond this comes from the evil one.”, for it is the city of the
Have you ever had to back out of a much-anticipated, planned event because something else came up that you felt forced to do?
That happened to me a number of times when I worked at a law firm. A partner would walk into my office shortly before noon and announce that he had a project that needed to be completed by 1:00. I’d pick up the phone and cancel my lunch plans. And I hated it.
The frustration I felt flowed from a deep desire to deliver on my promises. To be a woman of my word–a woman of integrity.
Although the broken lunch promises weigh heavy on my heart, I think the broken promises that Jesus is talking about are the ones that are false from the start. The ones where I say “yes” and have no intention of following through, the ones where I say “yes” for the sake of my appearance, and the ones where I say “yes” because I feel like a “no” answer would hurt the person’s feelings.
I tend to forget that God witnesses every word I speak, including all those false promises. And while I don’t want to hurt anyone’s feelings, it is still wrong to politely accept an invitation that I know I won’t follow through with. I fail to honor God when I’m untruthful.
That same tendency arises in my spiritual life. How many times have I asked for forgiveness for a sin and promised not to commit it again only to be back on my knees asking for forgiveness for the same sin a few days later? How many times have I promised the Lord that I would sacrifice time, money, or sleep – and not delivered on my promise?
In order to be a woman of my word, I need to ask God to show me how to let my yes be yes and my no be no. With His guidance, I can make wise, truth-based choices that honor Him.
Father God, please help me to be a woman of my word and a woman of truth. Give me the courage to speak the truth even when it seems difficult. Above all, help me to glorify and honor You.