Ephesians 4:26 – 27 “In your anger do not sin. Do not let the sun go down while you are still angry, and do not give the devil a foothold.”
Did you know that it is okay to feel angry? Many people feel that, as Christians, we should just smile and feel peaceful and happy all the time. But there is no biblical basis for that assumption. Jesus felt angry, and even turned the tables over in the temple (Mark 11:15 – 17)!
God created us in His image. He gets angry, and He expects us to feel angry sometimes, too. But He wants us to handle our anger in the right way. Anger, handled correctly, is a good thing. But when we misuse our anger, it can cause great damage to ourselves and to our relationships.
Sometimes, we decide to bottle up our anger. We hold it in, and it becomes a seething, smoldering breeding ground for depression, bitterness and hatred. Eventually, all of those nasty, putrid feelings will bubble over, and we will end up spewing them all over everyone around us. Do not let the sun go down on your anger. Holding in our anger is rarely productive. We should deal with it as quickly as possible.
Other times, we choose to immediately attack the object of our anger. Verbally, and sometimes even physically, we let the other person have it. Then, we feel better. But the other person may never forgive us! When we don’t handle our anger correctly, we can cause permanent damage to our relationships. The ripple effect is often far-reaching, as the other person’s friends and their friends’ friends are now angry at us, and before we know it, our explosive temper has caused us to be very unpopular.
But we must always remember what Paul said in verse 15: speak the truth in love. When someone or something makes us angry, we need to talk about it, calmly and rationally, and in as loving a way as possible. We can talk to the person who has made us angry. We can also talk to our Heavenly Father. When we do this, we will feel better. And often, our anger, handled correctly, will bring about positive results in our relationships and our circumstances.
Dear Father, Please help me to always handle my anger in a positive, productive way.